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Monday, May 10th, 2010 | Author:

Ajj jitendra badminton khel ke aya, aur ake kaha “sabse pahale tumse milne aya hun “, Ab usane sahi kaha ya chhutha ye bat mayne nahi rakhati hai.

mahttva ki bat ye hai, ki o bahut khus tha ,jahir hai ki khus hi hoga kunki apne beech ka vaha pahala ladaka hai , jo national game me pahucha ,sath hi uski mehanat bhi safal hui.

usane muchhse kaha ki vaha jeet ke aya hai,main khush hua, kya muchhe vakai khus hona chahiye, nahi janata ,iske pahel ke uske sabhi uplabdhiyun se muchhe dukh hi hota tha,par aaj yesa nahi. lagata hai ki mane dost sabd ka kuchh arth samchh liy hai.par na jane man ka koi kona kaha raha tha ki muchhe khus nahi hona chahiye,are jeeta to o hai aab muchhe neecha dikhana parega ,uski vah vahi hogi aur main jahan ka tahan .

shyad ye vichar meri asfalata ashantosh ki bhavan ke karan hai.manushya kuchh bhi kar le ye dono usk peecha nahi chhodti.jabki manusya ki asfalata ka mul karan uska apne lkshya par dhyan na dena hai,

Aaj har koi karne se jyada pane ki hor me laga hai ,karya ke suruat se hi hone na hone ki ganit me ulajh jata hai,aur fir asfal hone par bhagya ka rona rota hai.

Jitendra yek sadharan parivar se tha .pita sales man ,mata house wife ,aur do badi bahne ,aur do bhai.ghar ki economical condition sahi nahi thi,kam karne vala ek aur khane vale panch.

“pata nahi mere desh ke log ham do hamare do ke bar me kab samcheege”..

Lekin jitendra ka rahan sahan sadharan nahi tha ,o hamesha hi yek astariya jivan bitata tha.muchhe lagta hai ki ye sab uske aas parosh me rahne vale uske dosto ke karan tha.

kisi ne theek hi kaha hai ” itra ke sath rahne se itra wale se bhi khusbhi ane hi lagti hai”

par yek bat thi jitendra jo bhi karata apne paise se, khud tution parata ,aur electranic ki jankari hone ki vajaha se usase bhi kucch kama leta ,aur apne shauk pure karta,sath hi thora bahut ghar ke kamo me bhi lagata.

Jitendra padne me hoshiyar tha ,par usme jo muchhe sabse jyada prabhavi laga uska milan shar hona. yek aisha vyktito ki use dekhate hi chehare par muskan daur jati.Neta ,Abhineta ki Nakl to aese karta mano usne sabko kala baji shikhai ho.

Jitendra jindgi ke har vidhha ko jine vala inshan tha,chahe o khel,parai ,shrarat kuchh bhi ho.

Mere Jitendra ki dosti ki shuruat hone ki bhi rochak gatana hai.Main apne kasbe se Intermediate karne ke bad rewa (MP ka yek Shahar) B.sc Karne aya tha.rewa ke achhe college me dakhila bhi ho gaya nature se jyada milnsar tha nahi ,satha hi dost shabd par visvas bhi na ke barabar tha ,hamesha hi akele chalne ki aadat thi so ,rewa pahuch ke bhi vahi hal raha.

Ek din saikal se college jate waqt mera accident ho gya galti meri thi ,dono hath chhodakar saikal chala raha tha ,ab din jaise taise beeta par sham hote hi halt bigar gai aur mere dahine hath me jor se dard hone laga .ab kisi se jan pahachan bani nahi ,bulata bhi to kisko ,paise bhi nahi abbto bas ishvar ka hi shara raha.

Jitendra ka ghar mere room ke pas hi tha ,kai bar vah muchhse gali me mila bhi tha,so ,us din ishvar ki kripa se sham ko mere kamre me aya,Bahar dastak hui ,man me shanka ,kaun ho shakta hai… ,darvaja khola to dekha jitendra ,Man me khusi hui par madat lena muche ata na tha.

“Jab admi mushibat me ya bure waqt me hota hai tabhi use apni khamiyun ka yehshas hota hai.”

Jitendra ne pucha kya hua pahle to maine chhipane ki kosis ki par meri ankho ne sab ugal diya,aur ankhon ki gangotri se ganga,yamuna ki dhar fut pari,jaban ne bhi sath diya aur puri ram kahani jitendra ke age rakh di.usne muchhe datate hue kaha -pahle kun nahi bulaya aur dactor ke pas chalne ko kaha maine paise na hone ki bat batai to fir dat mili.

Doctor ke pas jane par pata chala ki hath ki do haddiyun ne namak harami ki hai aur mahine bhar ke liye plaster chada gaya.

mere pas ab tak koi dost nahi tha ya ye kahe ki maine kabhi kisise dosti nahi ki thi vaise bate karane aur riste banane me man bhi bahut mahir tha par dosti karan bada muskil tha mere liye .

mere dosti ke mayne kafi kare the.Bina swarth koi muchhse milta na tha aur jahan swarth wahan dosti kaisi.

par is ghtana se muchhe vastvik taur par apne vicharo par vichar karne ki awasykta mahshus hui.ushase mane shikha ki kisi ko parkhane se pahle apne apko shabit karana parata ahi.

“Bina swarth ke aapke shukha dukha me satha dena vala hi apka sahi maine me dost hai”

“Ham log dosharo ke liye to sharte rakha dete hai par ham kya hai ye kabhi nahi sochate”

Inhi kara no se aaj tak meri kisi se dosti nahi hui ,par main aab apne ko badlana chahta tha aur isme sath diye JITENDRA ne .

Ab ham aur jitendra bahut achhe dost the ,jitendra muchhe apna sabse acha dost manata tha aur main use.Uski bhumika mere jivan me yek dost se jyada ye guru ki rahi ,usne muchhe sahi mayne me jina shikhaya.usase dost sbd ki ahmiyat ka pata chal ,aur usne muchhe apne se bahar nikal kr duniyya ko dekhana shikhaya.

“Yek accha dost hamesha darpan ki tarah hota hai ji apke guna ,dosh ka darshan karata hi.”

Ushise mucche pahli bar apne likhne (kavita) ki sakti ka pata chala,aur apni tarkik sakiti ka jan hua.

main jyada khel kud me ruchhi nahi rakhta tha usne muchhe badminton khelnae ke liye prerit kiya aur main sanbhag stariya kkelo tak pahucha bhi ,par pairo me arthritis hone ke vajah se age nahi khel paya.

“Yek acch dost yek shilpkar ki tarha hota hai hai ji pathar ko trash kar use acchi murti me tabdeel karne ki kosis karta hai.”

Jitendra badminton bahut accha khelta hai sayad hi koi uske jaisa pure state me khelta ho aur usne sabit bhi kiya.

vah is jeet ka adhikari hai ,usne iskeliye kafi mehnat bhi ki hai.aur uski jeet me mucche bhi apnee jeet mahshus honi chahiye ,yahi yek acche dost ki nishani hai

AKHIR JITENDRA MERA DOST HAI.

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Wednesday, February 18th, 2009 | Author:


Marriage… It doesn’t matter whether it is love or arranged, important is happy married life and it depends on personal understanding of couple, so we can’t say which is better or which is bad.

If I start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both has certain pros and cons. Most of the people have perception in their mind that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. But from my point of view it’s not true .there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. Because when you have decided to spend the life together it is important you know the person. There should be mental compatibility and understanding among both of you. And this happens when you spend time together. On this people may argue that even after knowing each other for so long then why people get divorced after marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner.

In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background and financial stability. Which is also very important. As most of the people have an idea that those who go for arranged marriages are not in an advantageous position but it’s not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other’s feelings, love and concern. It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them knows each other so the social pressure and family pressure is less. If you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other’s needs and desires. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and want their partner to act in the best possible manner. But sometimes these expectations become harmful.

Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it’s not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it’s all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.

Personally speaking I would prefer an arranged marriage. Now the question why? In Arrange…whole family is involved. both one have a mind set to respect each other later on when understanding start growing between each other…then anything may come up if it’s in favor then good…if not in favor then family will be the most supportive at that time. But In love marriage…in difficult situation…all we have to manage our self… even families are helpless in few cases.

Tuesday, February 17th, 2009 | Author:

Some couple of days ago i was thinking about me that am i a Successful person & enjoying my life and so on ……? and also started to think about my friends, brother and my close relatives. after some time i found completely sink in sea of this type question. In finally I reached on a result . I shall disclose it later.

In this world every one has a target, try to get it, get success and then decide next target ,try to get it and get success and then next….Is this truth of the life ? Ask yourself. Most of us have their eye on their target mile stone but neglect the greenery in the way of life. This greenery is nothing every one is familiar with it. It is enjoyment. In the race of acquisitions, most of us have forgotten enjoying the life.

Question is simple. How much of acquisitions and achievements’ does a common man enjoy in his life?

Now next question is that what is enjoyment ? For example. One person A who is returning to home from his work place by his luxury van and other hand one person B who is in crowded bus. Who is most enjoying his life A or B ? In my opinions it goes to 50-50 . any one of A & B may be more happy. I think that Enjoyment is only state of mind or feeling such as contentment, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy.

How to make a balanced life between our achievement and enjoyment? Work-Life Balance does not mean an equal balance. Trying to schedule an equal number of hours for each of your various work and personal activities is usually unrewarding and unrealistic. Life is and should be more fluid than that. However, at the core of an effective work-life balance definition are two key everyday concepts that are relevant to each of us. They are daily Achievement and Enjoyment, ideas almost deceptive in their simplicity.

keep smiling & be happy.
Smile

Monday, February 16th, 2009 | Author:

Two hemispheres on one wall, motivation being fanned on another. Whiteboards that refuse to stay white and the balcony of Old Trafford. That’s A-175.

Or is it?

Two pillars of the institution stand to my left. Another one sits to my right. It is to quote him, “It is not about the place, it is always about the people.”

Hi! I sit in the third row (from the entrance) and am more into what everybody else is doing. Two rows away, two great minds sit facing each other. They mean business. One of them frightens me. Oh! he is smiling. This implies we bagged a new project. Whoopee!

I see focused eyes, raised brows and thinking fingers. Suddenly, a mouth opens. “Ooh…Ah…You are my Sonia!” No marks for guessing who it was. Nobody got disturbed. Many of us have put on music as protection for our ears. Others have got used to noise. But, I wonder why the exhibition of his chest is as loud as his singing.

Somebody just kept the bowl full of sandwiches on the table. Though he lost his beloved harmonica last month, the musical notes of his jaws remain intact.

Hmmm, this one seems to be an interesting development. The number of bangles this madam used to wear has come down, from elbows to wrists.

What’s happening here? Ha Ha Ha…somebody’s leg got pulled on Outlook. And, I can already hear her replying back.

Oh no! This poor guy has been sneezing since morning. However, there is a more remarkable phenomenon occurring simultaneously. This lady sitting next to me utters “Bless you” every time he sneezes.

What unites all the people out here is a common language. They discover joy in tiny things. And this joy drives them to do big things. I guess this is how the world kisses one’s feet.

Thursday, February 05th, 2009 | Author:

The other day I woke from a slumber.
The world looked a little different….seemed better.
The illusion of reality we lived with had become redundant.
Dividing people to experience power was not necessary any more.
The need to kill today to live tomorrow had gone away.
Politics and religion had returned to being tools of love and peace.
Destroying what has been created was found to be wrong.
The joy of creation had been discovered.
The opportunity to create more than one consumed was available.
The ‘have nots’ finally had enough.
The ‘haves’ realized they had enough, finally.
The ‘us’ had started merging with the ‘them’.
It was easy to see who each one of us really was.
Everyone was lovable and everyone was loved.
The ‘every’ in everyone had begun to become redundant.

Then again the state above was driven by a simple three dimension perspective. We need to be able to distinguish the ‘person’ from the following three dimensions:
1) The stage of evolution that one is in. The lessons learned so far, and the learning that might still be on its way.
2) The environment that one is currently living in. Which covers all things external which often impact the decisions made.
3) The actions that one takes today.
On removing the three dimension above one starts seeing the true being within our self and others. It is a state in which we begin to truly appreciate how wonderful all of us are. That is the beginning of an awakening where the world described above starts moving from theory to practice. Complexity moves to simplicity. Illusions dissolve to show the reality.
Things get even more interesting when you start seeing the fourth dimension – time. With a perspective into time the three dimensions mentioned above can be moved around in your mind such that you can clearly start seeing the future and the past. Then you move from living in a beautiful world to living in many of them at the same time!

Monday, February 02nd, 2009 | Author:

What could be a better way to unwind after a hectic day than with some heavy petting? Now, now, this is a family blog site – would I be suggesting what you just thought? What I meant was that personal experience and tons of research over the years show that a pet can be an enormous stress-buster. As Josh Billings once said, “A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself.” We all could do with some unconditional love each day, don’t you think?

I’m an animal lover and find it difficult to restrain myself, especially when confronted with baby animals. Can anyone remain indifferent when confronted with a litter of frolicking puppies? We’ve always had at least one dog at home. There were a few memorable years in my adolescence when my grandmother had six dogs of various breeds running around the house. I believe that all my adolescent angst was made more tolerable because of these dogs. Each time I was sad, had a fight or was generally put out, I would sit by myself and one of the dogs would find me and stay with me, unquestioningly, till I felt better and was ready to face the world again. They never judged me, never expected me to say something intelligent or even ask for attention. All they wanted to do was to be there with me. Can you imagine such unconditional support from anyone else?

My favourite portrayal of the limitless love of animals and man is exemplified in the video clip below:

Dogs are our link to paradise. They don’t know evil or jealousy or discontent. To sit with a dog on a hillside on a glorious afternoon is to be back in Eden, where doing nothing was not boring–it was peace. – Milan Kundera

Then there was my first Labrador, Lucy. She seemed almost human in her understanding of what was happening around her. Each time my mother and I had one of our frequent battle of wills, she would rush between us, stroking each person in turn with her paw and licking our hands to calm us down. She would sit by me and lick away my tears while I coped with the travails of teenage life. I sincerely believe that only a dog has that special way of making you feel loved and needed and of telling you that you might just be the most wonderful person on this planet. Such is a dog’s love for its human. The dog doesn’t want anything in return.

One experience I will never forget is when my dog saved my daughter’s life. We had this huge German Shepherd, Tarzan, who we fondly thought of as our guard dog. He was scared of firecrackers, smoke and even puppies, but in the minds of his loving parents (my husband and I) he was this fierce watchdog with a loud bark. One afternoon, while I was upstairs napping in my bedroom and my daughter was entertaining herself playing in the garden, I heard Tarzan barking relentlessly. He usually did not bark this way. He seemed to be extremely troubled by something and my first thought was that my 4-year-old was trying to kill him! I quickly went down to investigate and found Tarzan standing between my daughter and a Cobra, who was ready to strike. I almost fainted. My daughter was intrigued by the snake that had somehow managed to find a way into our garden. Tarzan had sensed its presence and kept barking at it so that it could come no further towards the house. My daughter was standing 2 feet behind Tarzan with her ball, as though she had just missed playing with the snake because of the dog’s intervention. While Tarzan kept the snake busy, I took my daughter away and managed to call the watchman. After this, the watchman took over, caught the snake and took it away. Tarzan immediately calmed down and so did I.

Tarzan saves the day!

Tarzan saves the day!

But it isn’t just dogs who can be a man’s best friend. Any pet can have that stress-relieving effect on you. I’ve kept fish and turtles and for a short while I even had a cat. I could spend hours just staring at the fish swim lazily through the aquarium. It was such a soothing feeling. The cat was more of a challenge because unlike dogs who think the human is GOD, cats think that they are GOD and we are there to serve them. So having the cat jump up on my lap and curl up to get her belly scratched was a feeling similar to having climbed Mt. Everest – I had won the love of a feline!!

One reason a dog can be such a comfort when you’re feeling blue is that he doesn’t try to find out why.  ~Author Unknown

You don’t have to take my word for it – just look at the vast body of research that supports the positive effects of owning a pet or even spending time with an animal on the mind and body. A study by researchers at UCLA School of Public Health has demonstrated conclusively that men living with AIDS who owned a pet suffered significantly lower degrees of depression than those who did not own a pet. Not only the companionship offered by the animal but the exercise involved in walking a dog or cleaning up after birds and cats helped keep the men with AIDS active and happier than those who did not need to look after a pet.

Similarly, there are numerous studies that vouch for the fact that having a pet at home actually helps lower blood pressure, alleviate feelings of loneliness and increase social support by helping us meet other animal lovers when we walk the dog. A study of 92 patients who had recently suffered from angina or a heart attack reveals that while 28% of the patients who did not own pets died within the next one year, only 6% of the patients with pets suffered a similar fate.

Animals are such agreeable friends – they ask no questions, they pass no criticisms.  ~George Eliot

There is nothing more comforting than pups snuggling against you

Almost like something out of Ripley’s Believe It or Not, a study also found that patients who watched fish swimming in an aquarium during oral surgery experienced greater degree of relaxation (as measured through blood pressure and muscle tension readings). Pet therapy has been used for several years now, with trained animals visiting various nursing homes, hospitals and hospices in the US on a regular basis. The patients exposed to pet therapy not only reported a positive impact on their sense of well being but doctors also found marked alleviation of symptoms and faster recovery in these patients. Trained dogs have been helping children with learning disabilities learn to read. Children with autism have also found to benefit through interactions with animals.

If you take a dog which is starving and feed him and make him prosperous, that dog will not bite you. This is the primary difference between a dog and a man. – Mark Twain

This irrefutable body of evidence brings me to the next question – How do I know what pet is best for me? You can choose from dogs, cats, birds, fish and even mice and hamsters. The kind of pet you opt for should suit your lifestyle, preferences and temperament. After all, we don’t want to add to the existing stress levels by choosing a pet that needs more attention that you are able to take time out for. You also need to ensure that the pet you choose is suitable for your living space. For instance, a large dog would be a menace in a small flat.

You would also need to get information about food and medical care the pet would need, the cost involved and whether you are comfortable taking on the additional responsibility and cost. The best place to get information is by visiting a neighbourhood vet. There is also extensive information available on the net. Also remember to consult your doctor regarding any allergies that you or your family members might experience. Many people are allergic to dog and cat hair.

There also are a lot of misconceptions about various animals, which need to be rectified at home before you bring in a pet. No dog will bite unless provoked and a dog’s lick does not infect you with germs.

Hugging someone can only spread love not germs

And talking about misconceptions, let me tell you about the time when my daughter bit the dog. Remember, the fierce guard dog, Tarzan? My daughter was about 3 years old at this time and she loved playing dogs, except she had her rules! For instance, the Labrador wasn’t allowed to lick her face although her face was at the same height as the dog’s face and therefore the most accessible part of her body. I once caught this strange interaction between Maya (my daughter) and Zoe (the Labrador). Zoe would lick her face, Maya would slap her in response, so Zoe would lick her again to apologize, so Maya would slap her again and this went on for about 10 minutes till I stopped them. But I am digressing. I wanted to tell you about how Maya bit the guard dog! At this time of her life, Tarzan was taller than Maya but loved her nonetheless. He loved being with her and have her treat him like a horse, ball catcher and general guinea pig. On this particular occasion that I want to recount, Tarzan kept nudging Maya with his head to play with him but she was busy colouring and so kept pushing him away. But he was persistent and kept nudging her till she got really fed up and turned around and bit his neck, tearing away a chunk of hair in her teeth. Poor Tarzan was in shock and tried to lick Maya to pacify her. I, of course, ran to wash her mouth and give her a piece of my mind – humans don’t bite dogs and that’s a cardinal rule.

A dog teaches a boy fidelity, perseverance, and to turn around three times before lying down.  ~Robert Benchley

Coming back to my personal experience, I find that the cost really isn’t that much, and certainly massively outweighed by the benefits. I have also seen the benefits owning a pet has had on my daughter. It has helped her focus on something beyond her own needs, made her take responsibility on her young shoulders and feel a sense of achievement through her efforts at looking after the pets. I believe these are irreplaceable learning experiences and I know that they will stand her in good stead as she grows up and interacts with the world at large. The greatest achievement I think has been that my daughter has developed a sense of compassion and love that I rarely see in children her age. When we go out shopping, Maya always makes sure we visit a pet store and bring home some chewy things for the dogs. She always insists on going with us whenever we need to visit the vet, just to ensure that the dogs were getting the proper treatment! And she is unable to see a hurt animal on the road. I am a better person because of Maya’s concern for the well being of animals at this tender age of five.

So let me leave you to think about how you can lead a longer, happier and healthier life by owning a pet with this quote:

The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail instead of his tongue.  ~Author Unknown

As a parting shot, enjoy the “Animal Song” by Savage Garden to some of the cutest animal pictures in the video clip below:


Thursday, October 30th, 2008 | Author:

They call it the festive season. Wow! I wonder if this season is a part of the natural cycle. Is festivity inherent to human nature? Answers can vary. With Diwali, starts a party which everyone in the country becomes a part of. Neither I know nor do I want to know the number of people who celebrate, merely, the homecoming of Lord Ram. An era that demands rational basis of every event, obviously, needs more reasons to cheer up.

Once upon a time, there used to be a calendar that divided the year into 12 months of 30 days each. The remaining 5 days were for festivals. This emphasizes the importance of such events in our life. But, what makes me ponder over this whole phenomenon is a more complex issue. Is joy a pre-requisite of life? Or, is life so depressing that we create mythical occasions to escape from it? I have no clue at this point of time.

By the time the New Year arrives, I find an answer. We look forward to novelty. It makes us happy. We say ‘Goodbye’ to the past and welcome the future. Between these two moments, lies festivity. Stagnation ends life. Fluctuations sustain it. A present full of excitement, therefore, is the solution. Wishing you a never-ending festive season, I invite more answers.

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Monday, October 13th, 2008 | Author:

Everyone is expected to find things that keep them happy and keep a firm grasp on those things so that they can handle the good with the bad. Write off the shitty day and wake up for better one type of stuff. It’s quite obvious where this is going. I can think of a thousand ways to put it, a drive to my favourite spot, my happy thought, my dial a friend, my relief, my way out, and my ray of sunshine except when there is no sunshine. Or even worse when it is all just a bloody tease. When you put aside all the frustrations and thoughts and head out to that favourite spot, you look out over the steering wheel at the ominous cloud screaming, don’t do this to me! Then while you stand in the middle of the road with your arms stretched out, fists clenched, pleading it to stop it pours harder, it’s no fairy tale.. you get back into the car, biting your teeth.. the only consolation life offers.. it goes on.

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